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All over the world – in China, Italy, the United States and Australia – many more men than women are dying from COVID-19.

Why? Is it genes, hormones, the immune system – or behavior – that makes men more susceptible to the disease?

My friend just got out of a long-term relationship and recently started talking to a new guy. He’s a friend of a friend and supposedly the kind of guy you can trust, the kind of guy who doesn’t run around with a lot of girls. Or so she was told.

After a couple weeks and a couple hook ups, she goes to one of the only bars in our small college town, and runs into the guy. He’s sweet, attentive, and apologizing for not being around the past week – he knew she had just broken up with her boyfriend and didn’t want to jump in too quickly.

Just as things started to seem like he was really interested he flips the switch, starts acting really drunk, and has the audacity to leave her with bartender and an unpaid tab. She is forced to pay his $40 bill. Understandably, she is pissed off and goes to hunt down this guy only to find him ordering more drinks on the other side of the bar on a tab he already closed. The bartenders call him out and ask him to leave so he and my friend go back to his place.

When they get there, she notices Urban Outfitters lip balm sitting on his bed. Has he been hooking up with other people since they started seeing each other? No, he says. It’s actually his lip balm.

“But seriously, do you really think I’m going to believe that this is yours? This is GIRLS lip balm.”

“It’s my mom’s,” he says.

For about 10 minutes their argument continues, my friend in complete disbelief that this slightly-tinted lip balm from the beauty section of Urban Outfitters belongs to this guy. Eventually he throws the lip balm out of the room and says it doesn’t exist. Drop it. There is no lip balm. Confused and upset that he denied this to her face, my friend goes home.

The next day he texts her asking what happened the night before. She gives him a brief overview with all the embarrassing details including the scene in the bedroom, and he tells her that he is sorry he was so drunk and rude. He started drinking that day at 5 pm.

“I haven’t been with anyone since we first hooked up, he tells her. “The lip balm, I’m afraid to say, is really mine. My mom had it and I tried it once and really liked it. I know it’s embarrassing, but that stuff is awesome, and I’m going to keep using it.”

My friend was dumbfounded. I don’t know what’s worse, a guy who hooks up with other girls and lies about it to your face or a guy who uses slightly-tinted lip balm from the beauty section of Urban Outfitters

What people do in their own bedrooms is their own business and should not concern anyone else in any way. Try to be true to yourselves and to your friends, your family, and to other people you come across in your lives.

Each person’s sexual orientation is a private matter. Who we are and what we are able to do, on the other hand, is something that can be shared with people we interact with in our everyday lives. What is important is not to cause anyone to hurt; we are all human beings.

I personally think that the media has a huge effect on people and  that the hysteric about it is worse than the actual virus ?

Anyway I'm not scared of the virus, just keep on my basic hygiene as always. 

Matkustin ensimmäistä kertaa Gambiaan vuonna. 2014. Rakastuin maan sieluun, ilmastoon, rantoihin, ihmisiin ja parin reissun jälkeen rakastuimme vakkari taksikuskini Omarin kanssa. 

Gambialaiset miehet rakastavat naisten kehumista, huomion antamista sekä auttamista. Tämä käytösmalli yhdistettynä Omarin veistokselliseen vartaloon vei sydämeni. En ollut suunnitellut rakastuvani Gambiassa ja olenkin lukenut siitä paljon negatiivisia kirjoituksia. Omar oli seurustelun aloitusaikana 28-vuotta ja minä 59-vuotias, olimme parisuhteessa 3 vuotta. Seksielämämme oli mahtava ja intensiiviset intiimit hetkemme sai minut aina pitkäksi aikaa aivan hypnoosiin. Se oli jotain mitä en ollut koskaan ennen kokenut yhdenkään länsimaalaisen miehen kanssa. 

Aina palatessani Suomeen, lähetin Omarille kuukausittain 300€ tukea asumiseen ja ruokaan. Tämä oli yhdessä sopimamme summa, jonka pystyin ja halusin hänelle lähettää. Kaikki menikin hyvin ja olin onnellinen, kunnes tajusin hänellä olevan muitakin naisystäviä poissa ollessani. Lopulta kävikin ilmi, että muut naiset olivat olleet mukana kuviossa lähes koko suhteemme ajan. Lopetin rahan lähettämisen siihen paikkaan emmekä enää ole tekemisissä. Gambiaan vielä matkustan rakkaudesta maata kohtaan, mutta uutta paikallista miestä en enää aio ottaa.

 
Näin vanhempana jo paljon nähneenä yksinäisenä naisena halusin/tarvitsen  jonkun kanavan huomionosoituksiin ja keskusteluun uusien ihmisten kanssa. Olen kokeillut senioirideittailua, mutta samanikäiset miehet eivät saa minua syttymään. 

Aloin haravoimaan internetistä eri seuranhaku-palveluja ja onnekseni löysinkin Dominodate sivuston. Palvelu vastaa parhaiten saamiani huomionosoituksia ja keskustelukumppania jota on kova kaipuu. Tässäkin kuin jokaisessa tutustumassani palvelussa suurempi osa käyttäjistä on nuoria naisia, jotka odottavat pääsyä antamaan tyydytyksen miehille videopuhelun välityksellä. Vanhempana naisena koen, että intiimi tyydys on minulle entistäkin tärkeämpää, dominodate palvelussa löytyykin miehiä jotka kykenevät antamaan tyydytyksen videopuhelun välityksellä. Tämä saa minut palaamaan takaisin aina uudestaan ja uudestaan. Olen ollut todella tyytyväinen sivustoon, sen toimintaan ja helppokäyttöisyyteen. 

https://puheenvuoro.uusisuomi.fi/masik/160384-gambiassa-vanhakin-nuortuu/

As a teenager, I met a man and had an on-off relationship with him for a decade. He was unfaithful and dishonest, but also handsome, charming and interesting. He moved away but we stayed in touch.

For the past year, he has been telling me that he is in love with me and wants to be with me. I’ve made it clear that I want to move on, but I love him and it’s been difficult. Even now, in my late 30s, when I see or speak to him, I feel the way I did when we first met. I feel shame that I love him because he isn’t able to give me what I want: an honest, committed, loving partner, marriage, a child and a home. My friends and family say I should cut him out of my life – yet I have been unable to. I don’t think he really loves or cares for me.

Recently, he told me he had a child with a woman last year. He has been living with her and trying to be a family, but says he doesn’t love her. This was a complete shock. My autopilot reaction was to congratulate him, but I felt incredibly angry and hurt. Once the shock subsided, I asked him to leave.

I was in a relationship for 8 years, which I thought were happy times. Our sex life was not very good. We only moved in together on our wedding day. ..

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I was in a relationship for 8 years, which I thought were happy times. Our sex life was not very good. We only moved in together on our wedding day.

A week after our wedding, I had a huge gut feeling that something was wrong. Over the next three months I saw signs of affair, but did not want to believe this was true.

I followed him one day when he said he was going to the gym; he did not and instead collected a woman. I confronted them both but he swore she was just a friend. I was absolutely devastated, but I wanted to believe him.

Seventeen months later after so much heartache, she called out of the blue and abused me saying how stupid I was because she had been sleeping with my husband for 17 months.

He came home and then admitted everything, saying as we did not have sex it was all about sex, and he was sorry and had wanted to make the marriage work, and had ended it with her, which is why she called me.

After I threw him out he was crying and very sorry so I agreed to give him another chance. I was quite relieved that it was over, he made no effort at all, it was all me.

Subsequently I found out she had sent him a Christmas present and letter which I only found out because I checked his mobile phone.

We agreed to have a break, so we lived apart. I thought he would ask me out and really try, he did not, so I came to the conclusion that I was not going to put up with this anymore.

Instead of getting on his knees, he hit me. I left and have now been living on my own for five months.

During this time I met someone else who I have some kind of a relationship, but he has had similar problems and says he is not ready for a relationship, whereas I am.

Now I have a dilemma: My husband is very sorry, his friends and family all say they cannot believe what he has done as it’s out of his character.

He is suicidal, and says he will do anything to make our marriage work, he wants to go on holiday and renew our vows, start again.

I have considered this as he was OK before, the good points are he is genuinely a good person and a nice guy and we had a nice life, the bad points are he never took my feelings into account when I was suicidal.

When it comes to relationships, society can send mixed messages. In one sense, marriage and relationships are seen as the ultimate goal in life, and anyone on a different path is seen as missing out. On the other hand, the high value placed on independence can cause some to view marriage and relationships as an obstacle.

Neither of these views offers a balanced perspective. Whether you are single, dating or married, it’s important to have a firm grasp of where you are in life. Here are some ways to do that.

1. Make the most of your relationships with friends and family. 2. Spend time chasing your passions and dreams.3. Spend time getting to know yourself. 4. Make time to travel. 5. Grow in your independence. 6. Take more risks. 

Tip: Instead of saying “that dress looks good on you”, try saying “the colourof that dress really brings attention to the sparkle in your eyes”. This type of well-thought compliment can really make an impression and help you know how to get the girl.

The best thing you can do to learn how to get the girl is to just be yourself. Be confident in everything you have to offer someone else. Be interesting and she will be interested in you. This may mean you need to take up a new hobby or travel to an exotic place. You want something to talk about. In fact, you want to have enough to talk about that you never find yourself faced with awkward silences. Learning how to talk to girls is a key thing here.

Your soulmate is someone you feel a strong connection with. You get each other and seem to go together like no other. Your soulmate isn’t always romantic – it can also be a strong friendship.

Your Soulmate Does NOT Complete You

I’m not a fan of the idea that your soulmate completes you. You need to be complete and whole all on your own. Otherwise you are looking at a co-dependent relationship where you are too enmeshed in each other’s lives.

Support is one thing, but doing everything for the other person is not possible or healthy.

Your soulmate will help you learn life lessons, support your personal and spiritual growth and encourage you when you need it most. You can grow together, but also as individuals.

You feel stronger together but this is not based on neediness.

When Will I Meet My Soulmate?

Okay, determining the timing can be a little tough. Who can say for sure when you will meet that special guy? But here’s the thing, instead of worrying about the “when”, focus your energy on being READY!

Live your best life now and enjoy what you have. Acknowledge what is going well and feel plenty of gratitude about what is good today. Smile often and share your joy with others. Be loving to attract the kind of soulmate love you want.