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I was in a relationship for 8 years, which I thought were happy times. Our sex life was not very good. We only moved in together on our wedding day. ..


I was in a relationship for 8 years, which I thought were happy times. Our sex life was not very good. We only moved in together on our wedding day.

A week after our wedding, I had a huge gut feeling that something was wrong. Over the next three months I saw signs of affair, but did not want to believe this was true.

I followed him one day when he said he was going to the gym; he did not and instead collected a woman. I confronted them both but he swore she was just a friend. I was absolutely devastated, but I wanted to believe him.

Seventeen months later after so much heartache, she called out of the blue and abused me saying how stupid I was because she had been sleeping with my husband for 17 months.

He came home and then admitted everything, saying as we did not have sex it was all about sex, and he was sorry and had wanted to make the marriage work, and had ended it with her, which is why she called me.

After I threw him out he was crying and very sorry so I agreed to give him another chance. I was quite relieved that it was over, he made no effort at all, it was all me.

Subsequently I found out she had sent him a Christmas present and letter which I only found out because I checked his mobile phone.

We agreed to have a break, so we lived apart. I thought he would ask me out and really try, he did not, so I came to the conclusion that I was not going to put up with this anymore.

Instead of getting on his knees, he hit me. I left and have now been living on my own for five months.

During this time I met someone else who I have some kind of a relationship, but he has had similar problems and says he is not ready for a relationship, whereas I am.

Now I have a dilemma: My husband is very sorry, his friends and family all say they cannot believe what he has done as it’s out of his character.

He is suicidal, and says he will do anything to make our marriage work, he wants to go on holiday and renew our vows, start again.

I have considered this as he was OK before, the good points are he is genuinely a good person and a nice guy and we had a nice life, the bad points are he never took my feelings into account when I was suicidal.

Tinytina Feb 3 '20 · Comments: 2 · Tags: #dominodate, #character, #cheat, #ex husband

When it comes to relationships, society can send mixed messages. In one sense, marriage and relationships are seen as the ultimate goal in life, and anyone on a different path is seen as missing out. On the other hand, the high value placed on independence can cause some to view marriage and relationships as an obstacle.

Neither of these views offers a balanced perspective. Whether you are single, dating or married, it’s important to have a firm grasp of where you are in life. Here are some ways to do that.

1. Make the most of your relationships with friends and family. 2. Spend time chasing your passions and dreams.3. Spend time getting to know yourself. 4. Make time to travel. 5. Grow in your independence. 6. Take more risks. 


One of the easiest ways to get a girl interested in you is by being interested in her. This means genuinely listening to her when she’s talking. Store information from your first conversations to bring up later. This will show her that you’re genuine about your interest in her. Compliments are another way to express your interest in someone. Avoid cliché or cheesy pick-up lines and boring physical compliments. You need to be a little more creative when it comes to complimenting. After all, she has likely heard almost everything. You want to give her a compliment she hasn’t heard yet.

Tip: Instead of saying “that dress looks good on you”, try saying “the colourof that dress really brings attention to the sparkle in your eyes”. This type of well-thought compliment can really make an impression and help you know how to get the girl.

The best thing you can do to learn how to get the girl is to just be yourself. Be confident in everything you have to offer someone else. Be interesting and she will be interested in you. This may mean you need to take up a new hobby or travel to an exotic place. You want something to talk about. In fact, you want to have enough to talk about that you never find yourself faced with awkward silences. Learning how to talk to girls is a key thing here.

Your body language can drastically impact your chances of success as well. Body language ranges from the way you’re sitting to things you say or don’t say. It includes taking subtle hints from the conversation and adapting. It even includes being able to read her emotions. If you can do this, you’ll be able to play any situation to your advantage.

Now your actions and body language should always be looking to say:

“I want you, but I don’t need you. I am my own person, with my own life. Having you in my life would just make it better.”

Unfortunately, being desperate or needy will not help you know how to get the girl. Most women are looking for someone who is confident and independent. If that sounds like you, then you’re already on the right path. If your confidence is lacking, take a bit of time for yourself. Figure out what you are looking for and it’ll be much easier to find. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone!

Bonus Tip: Don’t forget that your personal hygiene plays a big role in your dating success! You should always be well-groomed with a pleasant, but not overbearing, scent. Dress for success and you’re more likely to find success!

HLo Jan 8 '20 · Tags: dominodate, love, date
when will I meet my soulmate -couple from back

Your soulmate is someone you feel a strong connection with. You get each other and seem to go together like no other. Your soulmate isn’t always romantic – it can also be a strong friendship.


Your Soulmate Does NOT Complete You

I’m not a fan of the idea that your soulmate completes you. You need to be complete and whole all on your own. Otherwise you are looking at a co-dependent relationship where you are too enmeshed in each other’s lives.


Support is one thing, but doing everything for the other person is not possible or healthy.


Your soulmate will help you learn life lessons, support your personal and spiritual growth and encourage you when you need it most. You can grow together, but also as individuals.


You feel stronger together but this is not based on neediness.



When Will I Meet My Soulmate?

Okay, determining the timing can be a little tough. Who can say for sure when you will meet that special guy? But here’s the thing, instead of worrying about the “when”, focus your energy on being READY!


Live your best life now and enjoy what you have. Acknowledge what is going well and feel plenty of gratitude about what is good today. Smile often and share your joy with others. Be loving to attract the kind of soulmate love you want.

Emzyfordz Nov 27 '19 · Tags: dominodate, love, soulmate
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Recently on a warm evening, my friend and I were sitting on my front stoop having a glass of wine and chatting. Out of nowhere a dude comes stumbling down the sidewalk and approaches us. He’s a young guy probably a couple years out of college. It was a Friday night and the scene seemed harmless enough, so we stayed put. The conversation went as follows:

Dude: Hi. Hey. What’s going on?

Girl 1: Just hanging out. Where are you coming from?

Dude: A bar… (He looks off and is visibly wasted)

Girl 2: Oh yeah? Well, where are your friends? (Glancing around)

Dude: I don’t know. I lost them. Can I sit with you?

Girl 1: Okay…

Dude: You guys are awesome. It’s so hard to find good girls in the city and meet someone you really connect with. It’s all just hook-ups… What I want is someone I can connect with.

Girls: Oh yeah? (Surprised) well, yes, it really can be hard.

Dude is zoning out and gets distracted. He refocuses on my friend.

Dude: I like you. You’re pretty.

Girl 1: Thanks…

Dude: Can I kiss you? (he stands up to lean drunkenly toward her)

Girls: WHAT!! No!! (we scream)

Dude: Why not? But I like you…

Girl 2: You don’t even know her. Back off!

Dude: Ok. (staring off, sits back down). It’s so hard to meet a good girl here. Everyone just wants to be in a relationship. And I just want to have casual sex!

Girl 2: That’s exactly the opposite of what you said two minutes ago!!

Dude: What?

Girl 2: Two minutes ago you said you were looking for someone you could really connect with, and now you just said all you want is random sex.

Dude: Whatever. I just like you friend. (he looks at her again blurry-eyed) can I kiss you??

Girls: No!! Okay we’re done, we’re going inside now. Bye. Go find your friends.

Dude: Can I come too?

Girls: NO!!! Buddy, get out of here!

Begrudgingly he led himself down the stoop and meandered down the street.

(Just to be clear we felt safe and equipped in the situation, otherwise we would have left right away. This guy was kind of a shrimp and a total mess. That said, if this is how guys try to pick up the ladies, we’re screwed!)


I choose to stay single simply because I'm tired of giving everything and ending up with nothing. It is better to lock up your heart with A merciless padlock than to fall in love with someone who doesn't know what they mean to you.........

nata Nov 26 '19 · Comments: 1 · Tags: #staying single, #dominodate
LBCassar VIP

My first kiss was my freshman year of college with a girl who was way more experienced. I had never kissed or hooked up with anyone before, and she was from London and so cool and had already had three girlfriends in her lifetime. I didn’t tell her it was my first kiss, because I didn’t want it to be a big deal. One day we skipped class and had a picnic in Prospect Park and we talked so long we ended up watching the sunset. It was like a movie

Anastasia VIP

Masturbation is a taboo subject when we discuss sex. Often it is an overlooked form of pleasure for the next two weeks I will explore masturbation.

Currently I am reading “Tickle Your Fancy”. It is opening my eyes to masturbation in a whole new light. I need help learning to accept masturbation as an alternative to sex. I want to learn to embrace my body as a temple. One that I can please myself.

I have always viewed masturbation as unhealthy; in fact it has always conjured up unhealthy feelings of shame, embarrassment, and has always been shrouded in secrecy.

This book is teaching me how healthy masturbation can be. There are three reasons that speak to me personally.

First, it boosts self-esteem because it creates self-confidence. It enables you to overcome personal inhibitions and fulfill your sexual desires. I have been self-conscious of my sexual self. I can never let down my guard and allow things to be pleasurable for both of us. My focal point has always been on him. I always want to get him off in fact I almost didn’t purchase this book because of my strong focus on him. But I knew I needed to learn to focus on myself sexually. I want to feel confident in myself in the bedroom. I know I can please him but then who is pleasing me. A light bulb went off I have to learn to please me before I delve deep into pleasing him.

There also physiological benefits regular orgasms induce a state of peaceful relaxation by releasing your body’s pleasure chemicals, called endorphins, from the brain. Orgasms scare the hell out of me. The loss of control is terrifying. The first time I had one I thought I was having a heart attack. The way my body seized uncontrollably scared me to death. I never wanted it to happen again and have been hell bent on preventing it every since. Crazy right?

Lastly, you can choose to be abstinent. Masturbation provides sexual release without the need for a partner. I feel ashamed alone so I have to involve a partner. When I was young I did not know masturbation was healthy. No one explained to me it was a healthy sexual release ever. I learned that later in life but I always believed real sex involves two people always.

Many things we learn early on remain etched in our memory banks. These things are often resistant to ideal changes. Touching yourself was always weird and I have to reprogram that way of thinking. I hope this journey enables me to see masturbation as both healthy and natural.

Is masturbation healthy? Why or why not? Share your thoughts below.

Anastasia Aug 9 '19 · Comments: 3 · Tags: dating, dominodate, sex, masturbation
alis VIP

I was walking by the bus stop and noticed the Trentonian and a picture of a woman with leopard print pants on and braids with a headline that read insult 101. Her attire caught my eye. It truly captured my attention more than the article. I was not sympathetic at all. I am in a stage of growth and change. We need to be more than what we wear. Our clothes are defining how people view us. How can we be taken seriously when we are dressed for the club in an academic or professional atmosphere? Many times I get pulled aside for dressing too sexy. I was pissed how dare they tell me how to dress. It is my prerogative. Or so I thought. I was stagnated sure I wasn’t lacking in the attention department but I was lacking in progress.

I was not going anywhere in my career or life period. My clothes were my downfall and epitomized my failure. So I decided it was time for a serious change. I have updated my wardrobe discarded some sexy items and put club wear in the back of the closet not meant for work. I am covering it up versus letting it all hang out. Using what I had to get what I wanted was getting me nowhere fast.

How can someone take me seriously? When they are distracted by my voluptuous breasts displayed in my low cut top? You do not have to hide your assets but you do not have to advertise them either. I have grown tiresome of being classified a sexy kitten. I am a woman who is both beautiful and intelligent. My intellect was shrouded by my constant need to be sexy. I took being pretty to a whole other level and lost my credibility along the way. In my old job I was a no-nonsense worker. Wore my suits, dresses, and skirts. My work was impeccable and spoke volumes. Yet I had a reputation for dressing too provocatively. Which quieted their perception of me as a professional. I made male co-workers uncomfortable in my presence. I was so ignorant of this I was not aware of this until some years later. I kept wondering why in four years of excellent work I was never in a position of advancement.

So I have adopted a new philosophy my clothes will no longer define who I am. No longer will my look supersede my work ethic. I have a new attitude. I have a shorter do and no patience for failure. Look at my work not me. Anticipate my success not what I am wearing today. I have been picking up signature pieces that are conservative and professional. The gaudy girl is gone that people used to gawk at in the workplace. I will bring sexy back when it is ladies night.

After reading the article I came to this conclusion I do not condone the maintenance man actions or words yet I know our attire sometimes leaves room for interpretation. We need to take our look and persona more seriously for it is a pertinent part of our growth. We should not allow our look to typecast us. Granted we are free to wear what we like yet we have to keep in mind whether or not we want to our look to stagnate or motivate others. Preserve your sexy for the appropriate time.

My dear Hubby...

Being away with you give me so much pain in my heart. I only hope that our love will keep us close to each other. I wish one day the distance between us won't be there anymore, and that would be the day i'll be in your arms forever. I love you my hubby with every meaning of it. I missed you so much that I wanted to be with you every seconds of each minute... I can't stop thinking about you in my mind just like how I wanted you to be in my life...

I love you so much Hubby... I love you and will always love you...

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